Blurt out: "Are you matching with them? Why buy the same hoodie?" (direct accusation)

Joke: "Cute hoodie—send me the link! They have good taste." (playful probing)

Send to group chat: "Look at their hoodie—something’s going on?" (group consultation)

Brush it off: "Matching hoodies happen—they’re here with me now." (focus shift)

Spam FaceTime calls: "Why aren’t you answering? Who are you with?!" (anxiety bombing)

Send one text: "Have fun! Let me know when you’re home so I can sleep." (trust space)

Check Snapchat Map: "Location at downtown bar—who else is there?" (tech surveillance)

Rationalize: "Noisy bar—out of contact normal. They’ll explain tomorrow AM." (rational attribution)

Accuse: "You don’t care about our plans—what’s the point of LDR?" (emotional outburst)

Propose new times: "What day works for you this week? I’ll adjust." (flexible adaptation)

Ask their roommate: "Was it really because of homework?" (third-party verification)

Analyze frequency: "20% cancellation rate in 3 months—acceptable. Confirm 24h ahead next time." (data evaluation)

Demand to see messages: "Show me the chat—no secrets!" (control surge)

Ask: "How did it feel talking to them? Want me to listen?" (empathetic support)

Stalk ex’s Facebook: "What’s their recent activity? Are they trying to get back?" (info-gathering anxiety)

Reply: "If you need boundaries, let’s define them together." (collaborative boundary-setting)

Confront: "Is this all? I spent 2 hours writing!" (emotional neglect anxiety)

"I know you’re busy tonight—let’s voice chat details later?" (delayed gratification)

Check their Twitter: "Did they leave longer comments on others’ posts?" (social comparison)

Accept the difference: "They’re not into long texts—their actions show care." (cognitive reframing)

Demand deletion: "Keeping these to get back together? Delete now!" (command control)

Ask: "What do these photos mean to you? Can you share?" (open dialogue)

Screenshot to mutual friends: "They still have ex photos—what should I do?" (external help-seeking)

Believe "memories aren’t threats": "Everyone has a past—what matters is our present commitment." (security confidence)

Ask for health updates hourly: "What’s your temp? Wearing N95? Get a test now!" (excessive worry)

Send supplies: "Sent a pulse oximeter and Lianhua Qingwen. Stay safe—just a daily ’I’m okay’ is enough." (action support)

Join their local pandemic group: "I’ll track community cases—notify me immediately." (over-involvement)

Trust their judgment: "You know how to stay safe—I’m here when you need me." (autonomous support)

Text at 5 AM: "Ignoring good mornings on purpose? Are we even on the same page?" (time zone anxiety)

Adjust: "Since mornings are hard, let’s do ’good night’ instead." (flexible adaptation)

Check their TikTok history: "Browsing at 2 AM—real reason is time difference?" (deception doubt)

Rationalize: "Greetings are just formality—30 mins of quality chat daily matters more." (de-symbolization)

Love & Other Drugs "Daily video patrol" (anxious attachment)

Going the Distance "Scheduled communication spreadsheet" (secure attachment)

The Social Network "Hiring PI for location tracking" (over-monitoring)

Before Sunrise "Trust as a gift of freedom" (mature independence)